My mind sometimes gets the best of me, and begins to wander down paths that have no end. Reflections of thoughts bounce around and more often than not, only bring about insomnia as a reward. For no reason known to me, my mind is on a path to understanding relationships, or at least the failure of them.
It's easy for me to start placing the blame upon women; being male I understand their side of things the least. I also have my own life and experiences to offer as anecdotal evidence and support the male view point. Tonight however, my mind took an unexpected turn on its stroll down the dirt path of psychosis, and stumbled upon an apifany.
Love is an emotion of the heart, hate is an emotion of the mind.
I rolled this around for a while, savoring the texture (while loading the dishwasher). Some mixed feelings I have began to become clear. It is quite possible, even probable, to love and hate someone at the same time; these emotions are no longer opposites. The heart has no memory, it only knows what it likes and desires. The mind records only past events and bases its feelings upon the totaled sum. To put it in more common terms, we can love someone while still hating what they have done to us.
I can understand the battered spouse a bit more now, they only really want and hope for the heart to feel what it had before. It also helps in understanding the “been hurt†dating profile. You've all seen them, you may even have one; a profile that talks about honestly, loyalty, and only wanting to find someone to treat you right (this time). The problem in a profile like that is very rarely can you approach that person in a non aggressive, polite way. You see, the mind wrote that profile, but it only bases upon the past, it is the heart that longs for a future. The heart wants to be swept away, and safe and secure have never swept anything away except dirt off the floor.
The heart and mind are fighting for control of decisions in all of us. Neither are right, and neither are wrong, so we need to give both consideration. Lol, yea right; if that could be done there wouldn't be any relationship failures!
Posted By Mike On Monday, May 16, 2005
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